As published in The Florida Villager
Speaking with several divorced dads, I heard some common concerns and complaints. So guys, as promised, here is your Bill of Rights.
Divorced Dad’s Bill of Rights
Preamble: We, the divorced dads of America, having endured the trials and tribulations of our divorce, now stand united in our efforts to be upstanding fathers while stepping into our new lives as single men. Therefore, we ordain and establish the Divorced Dad’s Bill of Rights.
Amendment I We have the right to be who we are with our children. That means we might not do things our ex’s way but it doesn’t mean our way is wrong. No criticism needed.
Amendment II We have the right to the best possible relationship with our children. It is our mission to ensure this happens, therefore, no bad mouthing from their mom will be tolerated. Any deviation from this will be dealt with swiftly.
Amendment III We have the right to equal amounts of time with our children. Just because she gave birth to them doesn’t entitle her to more time. Our love is the same.
Amendment IV We have the right to open communication with our children. Cell phones were invented for a reason; allow our children to use them to call us whenever they want to.
Amendment V We have a right to a social life. We will cooperatively establish a schedule and adhere to it. Any attempts to control our time will be stopped immediately.
Amendment VI We have the right to expect understanding and flexibility when it relates to our work schedule. Some things are unavoidable, no need to take it personally when I am late.
Amendment VII We have the right to live peacefully and unharassed. I am no longer your husband so please call a handyman, neighbor or therapist.
Amendment VIII We have the right to date who we want without comments or quizzing from our ex. This is my personal life. Key word being “personal”.
Amendment IX We have the right not to be taken advantage of. Just because the MSA says I will pay for all school related items doesn’t mean you buy 10 uniforms and hit me with the bill. That is unacceptable. Here’s a tip: it’s called a washing machine.
Amendment X We have the right to be guilt free. We will not live our lives feeling guilty over a failed marriage, a split family for our children or moving on to a new life. We will reconcile the old and accept the new.
And when all else fails, we have the right to plead the fifth.